Do not automatically think that beauty always has to be defined by old-fashioned standards, donna lee. It is time to set your own definition. There is no need to squeeze yourself into some socially constructed mold that doesn't resonate with who you truly are. Your job is not to try and make sure that everyone loves you. There is only one person you need to satisfy, and that is yourself.
I get the horoscope in my email (from msn so you know it's true!) everyday. I read it for fun. Most of the time I'm either going to host a gathering at my house with some lively discussion or my "ship is going to come in" (which I'm still waiting for). Of course I beilieve it's all true. Ok, I don't. But I do find it entertaining.
Today's however was interesting because it's not so much a prediction as a reminder that we are all uniquely beautiful and that trying to be the tall, willowly person I see in my mind is not likely to happen in this lifetime. I have come to peace with my body shape. I am not tall (5'4) and I have short legs. I have an average build and am carrying extra weight that is slowly shifting with the addition of the exercise to my life.
Am I Vogue material? Again, not likely. I see women everyday on the train who are not just pretty but beautiful and I wonder what it's like to be them. What is it like to look in the mirror and see physical beauty staring back? I'll bet they see their own flaws as easily as I see mine and maybe they don't see their own beauty.
I am, however, human material. I have a good heart and I tend to open it to everyone. I am loving and kind and the older I get, the more I am satisfied with myself. I have a long way to go until I get to be the person I envision (and, sigh, she will not be tall or willowy) but isn't that what life is all about? Growing into your best self?
Just for today, I am going to walk around as if I were beautiful. I am going to project beautiful vibes and I am going to smile at people as if they were the most beautiful creatures I have ever seen. Wanna bet it'll be a good day?