I stopped in a convenience store today to use the atm and to buy a lemon pie for desert for lunch (I have a real weakness for lemon pies!).  As I was paying, the clerk (an older gentleman) greeted me and asked how I was.  It was a pro forma, How Are You?.  I said "I'm terrific.  How are you?".  He stopped and really looked at me for the first time and I saw the genuine smile grow across his face.  He said "I am very well, thank you".  We both smiled and I walked away.

This was not a major interaction but it must have made an impression because almost an hour later I'm still thinking about it.  It was one of those things that make you stop and look at how you relate to people every day.  I have to do this every once in a while because I know my interactions become rote and routine.  Because I am in a "helping" profession, I think I am maybe more aware of my daily interactions but I still just stumble through some of them not really paying much attention.  Human nature.  But, this morning I'll pay more attention and listen to what people say and respond from the heart insead of from the corner of my brain that handles my automatic pilot.  Until I forget and need a kick in the brain again.

It's September first.  In my mind, it should immediately be autumnal.  So, why is it going to be 97 degrees?  It's been hot all week but not too humid so it's bearable.  I've only got today and tomorrow and then a mini vacation.  I'm looking forward to it.  No plans, just hanging out and pursuing hobbies and picnics.  Kate is excited because for the first time she doesn't have to work on Labor Day so I suggested a picnic with fried chicken and potato salad and cake.  She jumped on it so we are planning a party in the park for Monday.  Unless it rains.  Then we can picnic on her living room floor.  It's the company and not the location that's important, right?  Oh and the food.  Let's not forget the food.

I've tried three times to listen to The Girl With The Dragon Tattoo and can't get into it.  It's wildly popular here (I'm not sure about the rest of the world and don't want to assume).  I just don't get it.  I was this way with The DaVinci Code.  I tried but didn't get it.  It makes me feel like I'm not in tune with everyone else when they're raving about something and I'm just meh.  Do you ever feel that way? 

Not much else is going on.  I have some meetings today and some paperwork and a social rehabilitation group to run.  Enough to keep me busy. 

Have a good Wednesday.

Comments

Rose Red said…
I am the same with the automatic reply to those sort of questions - and you are right, it's so nice to have an actual connection instead (I had a very similar experience not long ago!)

I love a lemon pie too. Any kind of lemon dessert really!

Have a lovely long weekend.
KnitTech said…
We're in the upper 70's during the day and mid 40's at night. What happened to our summer?!
Roxie said…
Sometimes, when you actually make eye contact and genuinely speak TO the person, rather than at them, you can startle them awake. I love it when someone startles me that way!

Lemon pie? You bought a whole pie? Or is this one of those little hand-pies? Oh, now my mouth is watering!

Have a glorious weekend. Are you battening down for the hurricane?
Kaye said…
Yes! I feel that way all the time about what's cool and popular especially with books. I don't even bother reading them. I'd rather enjoy something I know *I'll* like.

Have a good weekend! Temps drop on Friday! WOO!
amy said…
I never read the DaVinci Code. Oh, and there was one that was ALL the rage when I was backpacking in Europe, something about how there are no coincidences? This was 1995. Huge book. Lots of very mystical backpackers raving about it. Celestial something--prophecy maybe? Never read it.

I make a point of sincerely asking the folks at the supermarket's meat counter how they're doing. I notice so many people not acknowledging them as anything but the person who can get what they want. They don't say hello, how are you--they just start right in with "I'll have a pound of ground beef." Really, what's so hard about a little genuine courtesy instead of ordering folks around?
Galad said…
Those simple connections we make with others can be so rewarding!

I read the The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo and liked it It wouldn't be everyone's taste for sure. It is kind of slow to get in to.
Bells said…
i hated that book. I both tried to read it ad listen to it and ended up giving up. I couldn't see what the hype was about. I was both bored and horrified by the violence.
Alwen said…
I often feel that way about things that are super-popular.

And now I'm craving a good lemon pie. Wow. I haven't had one of those for ages.
drkknits said…
the girl with the dragon tattoo is very slow going for the first third, i think it needed a very good editing. but it does improve. i wouldnt say youre life is meaningless if you dont read it tho. the swedish version of the movie is better. and fried chicken and potato salad makes me wish it was summer here already. which i will then regret immediately. enjoy!
Your blog is looking absolutely gorgeous.

It's good to shake things up a bit in our interactions with people and to have real connections. I totally agree.

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